Friday, 13 March 2015

Effective speaking in front of audiences

1. Be confidence of yourself

2. Be yourself

3.Communicate with your audiences

4.Put your heart in your talks

5.Practice makes perfect

Friday, 13 February 2015

What do you do if people can't stand you?

1.  Ask them what they would prefer, then commit to it and give them permission to remind you if you happen to forget

2. Stop trying to impress people for a while.  Practice being comfortable with silence, and wait to speak until you really have something to contribute.  The surest way to gain appreciation is by giving recognition and showing genuine appreciation to others.

3. In order to change, you must determine your motive for making that change.

4. When discussing ideas, instead of shutting out others, find out what they are really talking about. Be curious and fascinated with the differences in perception and behavior between people.  Wisdom is the product of an inquiring mind that's connected to the heart

5. Strengthen your ability to keep commitments by developing your task management skills.  Learn how to set a goal and make a plan of action; how to prioritize activities to maximize time, how to delegate so you aren't doing it all by yourself and how to keep track of your time so that you can make accurate time estimates and prevent your time from getting lost in interruptions and unexpected crises.

6. There is no such thing as a perfect decision.  Every decision has some inherent costs and can't be predicted.  When in doubt, decide now.  80% of the decisions you face can be made in the moment that you become aware of them and they will not benefit from further information.  15% of the decisions you face will benefit from more info, and 5% of the decisions you face truly don't need to be made at all.  If you are concerned that your decision might hurt people, be honest with them about your concerns in making the decision.

7.   Be wary of criticizing.  Feedback helps people improve their performance and is a positive thing.  Criticism rarely improves, and generally destroys, whatever it is aimed at.  When people offer suggestions or share their ideas and accomplishments with you, practice noticing and talking about what you like before offering your feedback on how to improve it.

8.  Make a commitment to do something, anything, rather than whining about it.

9.  Let people know that you don't want to interfere and that you will respect their choices.

10. Let go of needing something back when you give, so that you can give freely.